In life, there are always two sides of the coin. Just as you can’t have light without darkness, you can’t have happiness without sadness. As much as we may wish we never experienced feelings of sadness, it is important to recognize that these lower vibrations allow us to recognize and celebrate the higher vibrations. That being said, it’s important to learn the tools to pick yourself up when you are feeling down so you do not get stuck in sadness or darkness for too long.
This mini crystal program for addressing feelings of sadness will explore how to shift out of that state and into a new state to help you to clear, heal, and reprogram your energy. Through reflecting, journaling, energy clearing, reprogramming and intention-setting, you will arrive at a new, higher state by the end of it all. You can use this program for long-term emotional healing, or as an on-the-spot treatment for when you’re feeling down.
So are you ready to break through sadness and tap into happiness? Let’s get started.
Reflection + Journaling
Why it matters: Before you can move past and heal from an experience or emotion, it’s helpful to take some time to understand why you feel that way and how that emotion impacts your life. Through the following prompts and journaling exercises, you will have the opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of how sadness shows up in your life. This reflection period is the first step to healing, so make sure to set aside some time to this part of the practice.
How to Get Started: Reflect on the past month and answer the following prompts by writing honestly and without judgement. DO NOT EDIT YOURSELF. We all have the tendency to do this on paper. But think about it this way: would you rather these thoughts and feelings be out on the paper or stuck in your energy field?
- How is sadness impacting your life?
- When was the last time you experienced sadness in the last month?
- What does sadness look like when it's happening to you?
- When you are in a state of sadness, how do you react? Do you cry, shut down, cover it up, etc?
- Does this same type of situation or experience keep happening over and over again? What's the pattern? What’s the cause?
- How did that experience make you feel on a physical and emotional/mental level?
- How would moving past feelings of sadness change your life?
Crystal tip: Hold a crystal of your choice (we love Clear Quartz!) in your non-writing hand while you journal to bring more clarity and insight to your reflection. When you feel as though you are editing yourself, squeeze the crystal and ask yourself, are you going to get real about how you feel? Are you willing to go deeper? Use the power of the crystal to write honestly and truthfully.
Create A Timeline of the Emotion
Why it matters: This exercise guides you to create a timeline of how sadness has presented itself in your life. By the end of this exercise, you will be able to see the timeline of sadness throughout your life and identify the patterns and behaviors that go along with it, which makes it easier to heal yourself from this emotion and those experiences.
How to do it: Download the Timeline Your Sadness worksheet to go further back in time – as far back as you can remember. Pocket any experiences, instances, incidents or even thoughts that you can remember into the age that they occurred.
Crystals for Sadness
One of the most powerful healing crystals for sadness is Amethyst. Amethyst holds the energy of violet light, a powerfully uplifting and expansive energy. When you are in a state of sadness or pain, Amethyst takes you out of the lower emotional vibration. It guides you to a higher perspective where you can break through and move past the emotion that is trapping you in a lower frequency. It allows you to recognize what is happening, see what you need to learn, and approach the situation and your experience from a more evolved perspective.
Besides raising your vibration, Amethyst also works by transmuting negative energy. The violet flame energy of this stone burns away the stuck, stagnant or negative energy that surrounds you so you can tap into your inner light and a more positive state of being. This is the perfect tool to help you move through sadness, because sometimes when you feel sad it can feel as though there’s no way to find happiness but your Amethyst crystal can show you the way.
Sometimes your feelings aren’t as clear-cut, and you may feel some other emotions that are related to, but not exactly, sadness. In those instances, we reach for these 7 crystals for specific intentions:
- Angelite for shifting from feeling alone to feeling supported
- Pink Opal for shifting from feeling disappointed to feeling content
- Amazonite for shifting from feeling discouraged to feeling hopeful
- Pyrite for shifting from feeling lost to feeling in control
- Rainbow Obsidian for shifting from a state of grief to a state of healing
- Lapis Lazuli for shifting from feeling powerless to feeling powerful
- Carnelian for shifting from feeling worthless to feeling worthy
Clearing Anger with Selenite
Why it matters: After reflecting, journaling, and time-lining this emotion, it’s time to clear it away and release the stored experiences from your energy field using Selenite. One benefit of working with Selenite is that it helps you to create a new perspective. It empowers you to take inventory of your past, clear away the old and step confidently into the present. Instead of staying stuck, replaying the same patterns inside your mind, it helps you break the pattern and clear it out. That’s why you’ll be using this crystal in a special energy clearing exercise to release sadness and other related emotions.
How to do it: Hold your Selenite wand in your right hand and make a fist. Hold your Selenite about 6 inches in front of your fore- head and your left hand about 6 inches in back of your head. Now switch the placement of your hands - left in front and right in back - in a sweeping motion over the crown of your head. Repeat this motion as you visualize the Selenite clearing your mind of any cluttered thoughts.
Crystal Tip: To take your energy clearing practice one step further, use a Black Kyanite crystal to cut the cords with sadness after you’ve cleared your energy with Selenite. The sword-like energy of Black Kyanite cuts any remaining energetic attachments to experiences or feelings of sadness so you can fully release this emotion from your mind, body, and spirit.
Program Your New State
Why it matters: As a final step, it’s time to replace sadness with a higher vibrational frequency. To shift out of a state of sadness, you will be guided to reprogram yourself on a cellular level with the energy of happiness and positivity. Now is the time to choose one of the crystals for sadness discussed previously to use as your touchstone for a higher state of being.
How to do it: Hold your crystal of choice over your third eye and say out loud or in your head, “I am filled with happiness and positive energy.” Repeat this intention for a total of 3 times while allowing the crystal to purify and transmute any low vibrational energy.
Whenever you find yourself getting caught up in your old story or old patterns, use your crystal to bring awareness to the words you are saying to yourself so you can make the conscious shift out of that state and that story. You can use the mantra: I am going deeper. I feel safe to go deeper.
To harness the power of this crystal program on-the-go and throughout the day, we recommend wearing crystals for sadness in the form of jewelry. The combination of an Amethyst necklace and a Moonstone bracelet are the perfect duo to provide a gentle but powerful infusion of light into your life.
Wearing an Amethyst Necklace over your chest allows you to keep the violet flame energy close to your heart and soul. Through the connection to your spirit, this stone allows you to go deeper and go to the darker places within yourself to find your light source. When you are in a darker state of sadness or a similar emotion, you can use the uplifting Amethyst energy to help you raise your vibration and plug into a source of light.
To complement the Amethyst necklace, a Moonstone bracelet worn on your left hand allows you to connect to the softer side of yourself. Often, we put others first but this stone reminds you to do what feeds you and brings you happiness. Don’t mistake the softness of this stone for weakness – it is incredibly strong and powerful, but it doesn’t hit too hard. This stone guides you to a calmer state where you can go further and deeper on your healing journey.